Let it Go
Celebrating the Fourth of July last week brings gratitude to mind for the freedom we’ve been blessed with in our nation. Other nations only dream of attaining the measure of freedom we’ve been given by those that served in the active military and those that sacrificed their lives. Freedom is a priceless gift!
Now, let’s address mental freedom from the mind. The tragedy that follows many soldiers home is there inability to leave behind the horrors they encountered on the battle field be it on land, water, or by air. You may have heard it referred to as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The definition of PTSD is a mental disorder that can develop after a person is exposed to a traumatic event such as sexual assault, warfare, traffic collisions or any past threat holding someone back from living their life to the fullest. There are medical treatments to assist with the disorder, but the prognosis may extend for years.
I’d like to address the last part of the PTSD definition-…any past threat holding someone back from living their life to the fullest, which brings us to the question of whether or not we are living our lives to the fullest. Award winning host, storyteller and viral content creator Jay Shetty hits a homerun in his video Professor Teaches Class an Important Lesson:
A college professor presents the class with a bottle of water she is holding in her right hand (quart size). She asks the class what will happen in the next few minutes while she is holding the bottle. One of the class says nothing. The professor continues by asking what will happen if she holds it for a few hours. Another class member notes that the professor’s arm will begin to hurt. Eventually the professor asks the class what will happen if she holds the bottle of water for 24 hours, at which time a member said she would be experiencing extreme pain. At this point, the professor reinforces the fact that the weight of the bottle didn’t change at all. The only change was the amount of time she was holding it. Shetty relays, “With our challenges, problems, worries, stress and anxiety it shows the longer we hold on to them the more harm they cause us. Your peace is more important than trying to understand why something happened the way it did, so Let It Go!”
Author Eckhart Tolle says, “Sometimes letting things go is an act of greater power than defending or hanging on. Stop trying to control it.” Shetty continues that when a person shows you their true colors, don’t waste your energy trying to paint them another color. If the situation isn’t serving you- Let It Go! “Let go of what you cannot change. Not holding on isn’t the issue, it’s what you are holding on to- things that weigh you down or lift you up. One of the best moments in life is when you learn to let go of something you cannot change. The most expensive real estate in the world isn’t Dubai, Singapore, New York or San Francisco, it’s your mind. Don’t let anyone stay there for free.” Shetty reminds his audience watching the video that people come and go so you must learn to stop holding on to those that let go of you a long time ago. He notes:
*The person who hurt you, won’t have the answers. Find them yourself.
*They don’t have the reason, you have to learn it yourself.
*They won’t have closure, you have to do it yourself.
In the end, Shetty reveals, “If we do not heal the pain of our past, we will bleed all over our future. Learn to set it down and walk away.” Some things in life happen and appear unexplainable. What you do with that experience will determine if you are doomed to relive it over and over again in your mind trying to make sense out of something that’s not sensible, or you proceed by stepping over it and continue leading your life to the fullest. The choice is yours. Choose Freedom!
– Karen Restivo is a Life & Communication Coach and owner of SerenityMatagorda Isle. You can learn more about Karen by visiting her online at SerenityMatagorda.com or emailing her at firstname.lastname@example.org