Music has played a large part in my life.  It has the ability to create a resting place of peace and contentment in me above and beyond the noise and chaos of daily life.  From the beginning, babies are lured into peaceful tranquility with lullabies.  Often when we grow up, with our approval, our minds turn into trash receptacles holding past, painful experiences, negative thoughts, self-doubt, shame and ridicule. (Misery is a common thread in a lot of country music.) Who on earth would approve this going on in their mind? You’ll find the answer the next time you look in the mirror.

Along with millions of others, my husband and I enjoy watching the television show The Voice. It’s one of the few shows that we enjoy watching together while listening to great music as contestants make it through the blind auditions, battle rounds and knockouts.  No doubt the contestants that made it on the show jumped hurdles and ran circles around thousands of other contestants for their coveted spots. And now the real contest begins!  If they have made it through the blind auditions, their talent has been acknowledged by some of the top entertainers in the business.  Along with their talents, contestants must have the mental strength to break through any self-doubt and negative feedback they may encounter in their minds. 

Recently, one of the contestants sang a Christian song called “Break Every Chain” written by composer Will Reagan.  Though it’s been out for several years, it was the first time I had heard the song.  What immediately struck me was the lyrics and how they revealed the perfect analogy of what each contestant must work through to achieve their peak performances.  Breaking the chains of anxiety, fear and self-doubt along with discipline and training is mandatory if they hope to make it to the knockouts.  If you’re a fan of The Voice, have you noticed how much younger and younger the contestants are getting?  Granted they may not have as much mental baggage as the older contestants, but they lack the years of experience in their craft.  The older contestants come with experience but they acknowledge the mental struggle is real.  The common denominator in all the contestants is their desire to push themselves above and beyond their own self-imposed limitations through Faith if they want to succeed.

Here’s the good news: ninety-five percent of us will never have to step on a stage in front of millions of people to exhibit our talents.  We do have to learn to manage our minds with the mental agility of those Voice contestants on television. If we want to become our best selves, we much clear out any toxic waste from our minds and replace it with loving confidence, self-acceptance and discipline with one key held only by you.  No longer will you allow others to affect your positive thoughts and new belief systems.  You are strong enough to break every chain that keeps you from being your very best!


– Karen Restivo is a Life & Communication Coach and owner of SerenityMatagorda Isle. You can learn more about Karen by visiting her online at or emailing her at 

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